Which animal would you compare yourself to and why?
I guess I would like to compare myself with grasshopper. Even though I fear a lot for this species, somehow it is my companion in terms of attitude or behaviour.
As it hops around for its food, it has the ability to camouflage with the surroundings. Similarly I would gel with anyone around to make my path easier. Spread the wings, walk around and explore the world.
Like I said I resonate with the grasshopper as the beauty with brain 😃. I find it beautiful , maybe there are few which look horrific but the majority are cute.. Next time I find this , I am going to greet it with high five🙏😃😃(hope i do not run away😁)
So to start with, yesterday was Women’s Day. Cheers to all the ladies around the world. They stood by their heart to reach various milestones in their lives. Sorry to disappoint the majority but somehow I am against the notion of Women’s day. Also I am not saying celebrate every day as Women’s day as well.
I agree, we women have come across lot of hardships from the world. Telling us not to work after having a family, telling us to rank cooking over career and much more !! But aren’t these the country traditions or mentality being blindly followed without attributing them to gender? Think about a single father. He has lost his wife or decided to have a family without a woman in his life. He should not be appreciated ??
I have seen a lot of men doing more than what they need to do for a family. Then, just for the morality of the world speaking for women, the women in the family is awarded. I am not saying the women are not great. They do sacrifice for something they do not need to do. But I do feel for men !!! The human anatomy is built in a specific way. Certain things are meant for men. Others are meant only for women. But men’s day would get the least support. Meanwhile, women’s day would be all over the posters and social media.
In this new generation of equality and feminism, we have uprooted the generic ideology of emotions and human anatomy. We should recognize the mental health of a human, irrespective of the gender. For decades, women have suffered. That trauma has turned in a wrong direction. Now, we are reversing the gender for the same trauma. There can’t be a day for a specific gender. Instead, give yourself a day for mental health. Find freedom from the chaos that your mind brings into your daily life.
Cheers to all who have sacrificed something or the other for the happiness of others. More than that, cheers to the people who support each other in these stages. They do this without any judgments passed on to it. Again, I don’t want to upset the majority. I know there is no debate that can conclude this issue of women vs men. All I wish is for the world to solve the complex emotions of humans. This should be done by being together with no gender differences.
You did it Rachana !!! You did it. You lived it through all those twists and turns of life. I hope, as you read this, you know I am proud of who you have become. You have not been lost to the poison spread across the world. You reached to the stage only through your courage. At the current adult age, am not so confident on how things would go. But I am sure. I would have lived the life I wanted. I ruled with the decisions that my heart and mind made.
Love yourself. Spread the cute, innocent smile even when I have lost all my teeth. Keep smiling despite having wrinkles all over your face.
What is one question you hate to be asked? Explain.
The question I hate the most would be the people asking about those names which you are trying not to talk about!!!
Not sure what I hate about it. Maybe those overwhelming emotions that come when I hear those names or the regrets of not digesting certain facts surrounded by the names. All these years there are not many names in that list but the few which are there just will never be erased.
Memories and overthinking are the two conflicting things which make these things worse. I am sure as days go by these names might just vanish or when it does come you would happily respond to it with no regrets.
What experiences in life helped you grow the most?
When I was a kid I used to think life is hard and it always had a way to break my dreams in one way or the other. I joined the CBSE school thinking of an ambitious dream of joining the IITs. But life has its own way of saying you get what you need to get to learn. I had to drop out of school for unseen circumstances in my personal life. My life had shattered down to pieces. I never thought I would continue my education as well. But here I am a proud Software Engineer even though not to IIT level but I still love what I do.
So what do you get from this is whatever happens, the life experiences turn you to a different person you ever expected but a good one always at the end. You need to trust the process of life and learn from the hurdle you got on the way. That turning point in my personal rollercoaster did make me who I am today. This might seem like a bla bla story and frankly even if I re-read I would feel the same. All are in the same boat , experiences differ and perspectives as well. Not always we get to understand at the moment. Each day even myself needs reassurance that not always every story has a happy ending or chapters, you will have a lot of twists, surprises and unexpected times.
The silent, a short young girl with a little ambition of being part of a bunch of IIT people is now a developer who is being loved by many, noticed by many and growing each day. Life did not give me what I dreamt of, but what it gave was not less than any dream of a person.
I am grateful for all those experiences which are making me better day by day. Maybe you do not get an answer today but one day you would be surprised to see this is why it happened and it was not a curse but a boon in your life. Trust the flow and your choice , if it goes as you wish still learn and try to be better. If not going in your expected direction, not to worry there is always light at the end of the tunnel !!
The more accurate question would be, do I want to believe in fate or destiny !!! It is a hard pill to swallow. When do we ask this question. When life is smooth and all is well , no one dares to look at destiny or fate right !! It is always their smartness or hardwork at those times. But when things turn ugly in your life, you turn your face towards fate or destiny!!
I have never heard people speaking of good destiny or good fate. Somehow these words are attached to unlucky or sadness which I hate to the core. Why cannot people be well destined always right!!
So do i want to believe in fate or destiny. Yes i do !! Do i believe in it ?? Not sure because things turn ugly whatever you do if it’s situational then why blame the destiny or fate!!! I want to see life as a gift given, live it as it is and not tag it with destiny. If destiny decides where I or people need to be , then the world would have been a lot more bad place. At the end it is the choice you take decides your fate and not the fate deciding your choice.
Describe a phase in life that was difficult to say goodbye to.
That peak period of your age where you stand between 28 to 30’s. This is one particular phase of life where you turn from immature to mature or try to understand what is maturity. You get to understand your parents more and you get to know that they are also just like you who have faced all these phases with a brave face. You are confused about where the future is heading, what your goals are, are you in the right direction !!
The age where you lose your love of life whom you thought was forever. The age where you fear how life has turned out to be and how you take the responsibilities thrown upon you unexpectedly. The childish tantrums are no more cute but look rude to others. The age where the harsh realities of life hits a very odd place and time.
Once you cross this phase, there is no going back you are officially a responsible person who is on their own path. You never feel like saying good bye to that phase. Even though it is filled with anxieties and confusion, the transition you get is irreplaceable.
If you could be someone else for a day, who would you be, and why?
If I could be someone else for a day, it would be the richest person in this world. I want to feel what they feel. Is there something called an end to the feeling or it just never ends.
The constant chase behind happiness over money never ends among people. So as per rule I should have in one click all facilities whichever I ask for right !! Would I be satisfied or I would still look for something more !!
Why I chose to be richest is not because I want to run behind money but the countless number of people I meet , the common goal is money. Do they have a target in mind ? I do not think so. Is money important ? Hell yeah !! But is that everything ? Hell No !! So for a day I want to be that person who just got everything in his or her life and see if the chase ends there or the game just began !!!
What is the biggest challenge you will face in the next six months?
2025 new year , I wrote that, it is the year where I am going to focus on myself and on my journey to be looking after myself more often. The biggest challenge in the coming six months is staying focused on this goal. Things always seem difficult when you start.
At first you have the starting trouble, the laziness just to make that first tiny little step of waking up early. Touchwood!! I crossed that hurdle and how??? It’s Mel Robbin’s secret weapon “The 5 second rule”. I would recommend people follow it but it is all on you how to perceive it. Not that all days of the week I succeeded, but the success rate is not so bad!!!
After crossing that tiny little step, life throws you a little surprise. You are back to zero by getting a high ranged fever. Irony right !! Life always cripples you down when everything does seem to work perfectly fine.
If you do not rise up after the surprise thrown by life what is the challenge left right!!. For my journey to look after myself more often, applies to these challenges as well and I am determined I will make whatever possible to cross this hurdle. Even if I feel low, I want to let it sink completely in and then the next day you are back to the routine.
General feedback from all those who have interacted with me is that I can initiate conversation with no age limit. Be it a kid, adult or aged person , I can talk with them. That comes to the answer what bores me is Silence !!! I love to talk. Also that does not mean I would stop anyone and start blabbering. If the talk gets clicked then thats a non stop one else you can see it in my face , I want to run from there 😃.
In recent days , choose silence over talks to try out if that helps in a peaceful mind. To my surprise silence is not bad until you have nothing going overly in mind. Books became my partner, writing became more common.
So anything idle , that just makes me want to sleep unnecessarily or think rubbish is boring for me.
